Dating a sociopath part 2
Look for them to throw a fit when they don’t get 100 percent of their way, or maybe just take their ball and go home.
The reason psychopaths, sociopaths, and idiots can’t think in these terms is that they always have to feel like they’ve come out on top.
It is precisely this kind of inertial state that psychopaths and sociopaths prey on.
What’s more, most people don’t do much reflecting on what philosophy professors call “the Good.” Most are trusting folk who aren’t on the lookout for psychopaths and sociopaths. I’m just going to give you a little direction so that you can hunt psychopaths, sociopaths, and idiots with the best of them. With a simple tool I’ve used to teach thousands of men at The Art of Charm: The Value Scale. The Value Scale is something we came up with at The Art of Charm to recognize different personality types and how they go about getting value from other people.
In fact, psychopaths, sociopaths, and idiots often hide in plain sight. Take a look at the Forbes list of the 10 professions most likely to attract psychopaths.
They’re not bank robbers and interrogation experts.
So now that you know you’re not a psychopath, a sociopath, or an idiot, how do you start identifying these personality types in your own life?
Mutual exchanges are a loss to the psychopath and sociopath. So look to the presence of empathy as the defining characteristic of the psychopath and the sociopath. If they want to know anything about other people, it’s only to further their own ends.
Someone who never lets you in, who never lets you know who they really are. At the same time, psychopaths and sociopaths can also exhibit a tendency to share too much.
This is a tool called floodlighting, or “over sharing” with their target.
Are they looking for a way to give support or the fastest way out of having to keep listening?
You’re not looking for the reincarnation of Mother Theresa here, only normal human empathy that you’d expect from anyone who truly cares. Dealing with psychopaths, sociopaths, and idiots can be difficult, because they can’t conceptualize win-win scenarios.